How to be Your Best Matchmaker
May 16, 2016
by Sarah Neill
It’s 2016. Most of us are not going to meet the love of our lives’ in high school like our parents did. Chances are, we will meet them online. With thousands of dating sites, online dating can be overwhelming and intimidating. After browsing profile after profile it is easy to lose hope for that Happily Ever After. With these five helpful tips, you can strengthen your dating game.
Find a site that works for you
Don’t be afraid to shop around a bit. If you’re a “city slicker,” farmersonly.com is probably NOT for you. Do some research on each website to make sure they’re legit and that you won’t be wasting your time. You also want to make sure they have what you’re looking for. Each site is looking to accomplish something different for it’s members, find one that fits.
Making a profile can seem daunting. With hundreds of other profiles out there, you might be tempted to tell some little white lies to make yourself seem more interesting. That’s a bad idea. Lying on a dating profile is basically false advertising. There are so many people online, plenty will love the real you. Giving the wrong impression online can ruin any potential relationship. Honesty really is the best policy.
Give it time
You’re not going to find the love of your life overnight. You might have to kiss some frogs to find the prince. There is no need to rush into anything, casual dating is OK. After one date, you won’t know if someone is “the one” – the only way to know that is time. You might have a lot of really good conversations that fizzle out. Putting in a bit of time and effort will pay off.
Unless you’re trying to be on the show Catfish or, even worse, winding up in Silence of the Lambs, use your common sense. Obviously, don’t reveal too much personal information, or be too trusting. Meet in a public place, tell a friend where you’re going, and have a backup plan to keep you safe in case things go bad. Here is where you insert the lecture your parents gave you about stranger danger – keep some of that in mind.
Be open to possibilities
We have all heard the old cliché, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” The same is true with online dating. A profile only shows a snapshot of someone. Giving someone a second look could present a previously missed opportunity. Remember that they write their profile just like you write yours, so it’s biased. Dating doesn’t have to be about finding your soul mate with every relationship. Sometimes dating just helps you figure out what you want in life and that is just fine.
Sarah Neill is a political science major and a communication studies minor at Texas Lutheran University and she hopes to go into politics once she graduates. Sarah likes to stay busy on campus, whether it is working as an admissions ambassador and marketing & communications intern, or being at rehearsal for the TLU women's choir. She is very devoted to her studies, takes part in the Honors Program and is a member of Alpha Lambda Delta.